Dating an older woman requires a certain finesse that you may not be used to when dating younger women. Cougars are generally experienced in sex, love, and life with their career established and past relationships that have shaped their views on romantic love. Speaking to them and relating to them requires a higher level of both emotional intelligence and actual intelligence. And it also helps if you’re good in the bedroom department.
New research out of Barcelona’s Public Health Agency has determined that rich women tend to have better sex. According to this Guardian article, rich women use more contraception and suffer less sexual abuse, and because of these factors and a plethora of others, they have both more sex and will be happier with sex. So if you’re a cub who is going after a rich cougar, then you need to keep in mind that you’re going to have the bar set high.
These high expectations aren’t just in the bedroom department, however. Your older, richer cougar isn’t going to be upset that you didn’t pick up the bill or plan a lavish date, but she will be upset if you make all the wrong moves and make her feel more like a sugar momma than a partner in your relationship.
So if you want to date a rich woman, whether she’s a rich older woman or a rich cougar, then you’re going to need to keep the following things in mind.
1) Check your ego at the door.
There are men who would think that having a rich older woman to pay for everything would be everything that they could ever dream of. This independence can scare some cubs though. If you’re dating a rich cougar, you might start to wonder why she’s with you. After all, a rich older woman is used to the best and also to her independence. So why does she need you? Cubs tend to forget that there are many reasons why a rich cougar would want to give you her attention, so don’t get hung up on where you’re lacking, but embrace that she likes you for you.
You also need to be well aware that she is a strong, independent woman, so check your male dominance at the door.
2) Be ready for lifestyle differences.
While anyone who is dating someone who is richer than they are would expect to have different backgrounds and expectations, sometimes the vast amount of difference between the two of you can be shocking. Maybe the rich cougar that you’re dating has travelled all over the world, maybe she holds numerous degrees and is incredibly successful, but more than likely she likes to enjoy the finer things in life.
In order for you to learn to accept that she’s taking you to that brand new wine bar instead of your local hole-in-the-wall, you just need to remember step one and check you ego at the door. Just be ready for these lifestyle differences between you and your cougar and accept that she’s introducing you to new places and experiences because she can afford to do so.
If you can hold your own in these new situations, you’ll do well. Just keep an open mind and ready to explore and experience parts of her world that she loves.
3) Don’t treat her like a prize.
This goes for all dating and anyone who still treats their girlfriend like a trophy (whether she’s a cougar or not), is probably not someone you do not want to spend a lot of time with. A recent study has even found that men who strongly adhere to traditional masculine roles actually have poorer mental health, and cougars have learned to steer clear of toxic men. Women are simply not arm candy, and cougars are not a trophy to parade around. While you may want your cougar to feel like she’s your trophy in private, in public she is her own woman.
If you’re dating a rich cougar and you find that you’re more interested in what your friends have to say about the woman you’re dating rather than what your cougar has to say, it’s not going to go well. Even if that’s not your intention, if you fall into this trap then you will find yourself single very quickly.
If you’re looking for a sugar momma or a rich cougar to take care of you, one of the most important things that you can remember is that you need to bring something to the table. She’s proven that she likes you by taking you out, but she needs to want to continue to spend time with you, and you need to do a little work to keep her interested.
It sounds simple, right? Not all cougars are going to be a sugar momma, just like not all cubs have their lives sorted out at the age of 25. Still, there are some cubs who don’t think that they should have to put in much effort or time to find the sugar momma they’ve always wanted and these are the cubs that are going to be missing out when they’re looking for a mature woman to date.
A sugar momma or cougar isn’t going to support a cub just so they can be lazy.
So what do you have to do in order to have a sugar momma?
Put in the time to search.
You’re not going to have a sugar momma just magically find you. This isn’t a fairy tale. You need to do some research and you need to put some money in. If you don’t have a nice suit or something to catch the eye of the sugar momma that you want to date, then you might be out of luck. After all, sugar mommas are not looking for a reverse Pretty Woman scenario. Generally, they’ll want you to already have at least some things figured out before they even step into the picture.
If you’ve been slacking on certain habits then you’re going to need to fix that. For example, if you’re completely against manscaping of any kind, have un-groomed facial hair, or your clothes are regularly wrinkled, then you’re going to have a hard time finding a sugar momma for yourself. If you’re not willing to take care of yourself and go a little bit further, then why should she put in any extra effort to take care of you?
Know where the lines are.
This isn’t your regular relationship where there’s more push and pull. With a sugar momma relationship, it’s more of an arrangement. That means that she’s the one who sets the rules and that if you want to stay in the arrangement, you should adhere to them. Cubs who are set on being the dominant partner and in control of a relationship, should look elsewhere.
Sugar mommas aren’t the types to be bossed around by anyone.
If you are lucky enough to find yourself with a sugar momma or rich cougar on CougarLife.com, you need to treat her like the goddess she is so that while you’re keeping her happy, she’s keeping you happy. Remember, check your ego at the door, embrace the differences in your lifestyles, and treat her like the strong independent woman she is, then you’ll be well on your way to creating an equal partnership.